"When we compare ourselves with others we put one person above the other we either come out on top (pride/ vanity) or we come up short (disappointment with what God gave us). Regardless of how we measure up when we make these comparisons, our motives are selfish rather than loving."- Shannon Ethridge
I think as a woman, I am always struggling with comparisons. Whether it's material things, physical appearances, parenting, preferences or even (gasp!) spiritual things- disciplines, convictions, lessons, etc. Whatever the case may be, it's foolishness.
Instead of asking myself "Am I like her?" or "Is my life like hers?" I should be asking "Lord, what do you want for me?", " What lessons in life do you want me to learn?", "What disciplines do you want me to practice?", "How do you want me to dress, act, talk, etc?" Whatever His answer may be, I need to be at peace with that- and live confidently in my relationship with Him!
Ultimately, as believers, we should want to be like Christ. We should want our lives to reflect HIS desire for our lives- not the lives/desires of others. Our Christian life is about loving the Lord! Therefore, our pursuits should always be about Him.